Before we start, let’s get an operational definition of “emotional baggage”. I’d like to use one presented by Drs. Les Parrott and Neil Clark: “History is what has happened in our lives. Baggage is how we feel about it. Your psychological perspective on your past determines, to a great extent, your personal health and vitality.”
Therefore, this applies to how you have perceived a variety of experiences over time. Your lenses are coloured by parental upbringing, education, religion, spirituality, your village/town and nation, race, socio-economic status, travels, friends, media exposure and more. They all have had some role to play in how you feel about your past to where you are now.
Just how do you break years (sometimes decades) of pain, paranoia, self-doubt, fear, anger, defenses? You do it with honesty, persistence, patience, true support, and faith in you and your journey. Here are a few ways to get started:
“Sometimes the past should be abandoned, yes. Life is a journey and you can’t carry everything with you. Only the usable baggage.” ~Ha Jin