I hear it almost daily: “I hate Facebook” “Dat ting is Macobook/Fassbook” “I refuse to have an account” “I closed my account” and much more.
Granted, I hear even worse than that! I’ve had people admit that they stalk others on FB. An old secondary school classmate and I were chatting and she mentioned she’d added a particular person to her account. I was surprised since I know those two NEVER got along (and may never). Her response? “I don’t like her, I just want to see what she doin’” Really? You want to peek into that woman’s life, just to see what she is up to? To what end? See if you are doing better than her? Scoff at her accomplishments? Make yourself feel good (or bad)? I was fascinated. How much time are you wasting?
Then there is the usual – becoming involved in other people’s drama (family, work, politics, etc.), hooking up with past flames while you are married (that never goes well folks), having a platform to air your grievances – much of which should not be aired – only to be hastily deleted off the wall. Sharing things with people you normally would not. How many of the 500+ “Friends” on your page truly care about you and your life? How many are even seeing your posts? How many are wishing you ill? How many truly want the best for you and your family?
Sounds negative? Well, it is true. I would hazard that only a handful of your online friends is invested in your status updates, your pictures and your wellbeing. Which brings me to – what can you actually do with your personal FB page to make it a much more pleasant place?
Let’s talk a bit about motivation. Why do you have an account? Some choices are:
If you prefer those above options – then stop reading now and keep everything as is.
If however, you find that after a FB page perusal you find yourself drained, anxious, frustrated, angry, jealous, questioning yourself in a negative way, comparing yourself and your life unfavorably to others, judging others – then time for a fix-it!
So what to do?
Feeling better? Excellent.
So what do you do next? Populate with better things.
I did this a year ago. A steady diet of positive quotes, loving friends, fun videos, interesting articles, uplifting news stories, and NO drama – has been amazing for my system. I find that I look forward to seeing what is in my feed and the handful of friends I have on there are mature, positive, kind people who genuinely encourage me to think out-of-the-box and follow my dreams and I, in return, am supportive of them.
This may sound simple – but FB can be seductive and insidious if you are not paying attention to what you are allowing into your life. And I am deliberate in my use of “allowing” because you do have a choice in what you feed your mind, soul and body. This is very much an exercise in improving your mental health! Choose wisely.